good advice

Laugh when you can,
apologize when you should,
and let go of what you can't change.
Kiss slowly,
play hard,
forgive quickly,
take chances,
give everything
and have no regrets.
Life's too short to be anything but happy!

I got this from John....it sounds like excellent advice to me!

Everybody have a wonderful day!!

Well it seems to be one of those reflective kind of nights for me. I read things in other peoples blogs and they make me think....so tonight it seems to be about priorities. I have been thinking about this one for a couple of days actually, because I got really pissed off when I read one and another I read dealt with something along the same lines. Is it a generational thing, this idea that we can have 'stuff' now..and forget about what we might need tomorrow? We aren't affluent BUT....buy a big screen TV even tho a smaller one would work just as well....buy a new car since the one we have is a couple of years old, and of course the regular old radio/cd player just won't do...get the satalite radio please. Have we somehow given our children the idea that they are 'entitled' to have expensive things when they could do just as well with lesser versions of the same thing and live within their means? Have we given up on the idea that the choices we make in this life have end results and that those results are OURS to deal with, it's not fate or anybody or life in general 'against us' because the results aren't what we hoped for? In my world of limited income, feeding the children and paying the bills takes priority over getting a new computer ( mine is 5 years old) and we don't get a new tv just because there is a bigger one we want...that car is paid for and I'm driving it til it rolls over and gasps its last breath! lol ok I admit to being a bit on the thrifty side...but I absolutely believe we want too much 'stuff'. I think having what you want is fine....IF you can afford it...and even if you have money you shouldn't be frivilous with it. Can't afford new shoes for the kids? Can't afford groceries for the comming week? Are they threatening to disconnect the electricity because you can't pay the bill? Can't pay for the braces the teen needs? Well tightassed old country me has a a couple of ideas...DROP THE CELL PHONE/DISCONNECT THE CABLE/BAKE YOUR OWN BIRTHDAY CAKE/EAT AT HOME/SELL THE $2000 TV AND GET ONE FOR $250 AT WALMART.....there are more...but you get the idea....how you spend whatever money you have at your disposal is up to you...PRIORITIES.....and if you choose to spend it on things that aren't necessities and there in not enough left for what you do need...TOUGH SHIT...SUCK IT UP AND DEAL WITH IT....as Dr. Phil likes to say, you own this one.

it was so right, it was so wrong
almost at the same time
the pain and ache
a heart can take
no one really knows
but when the memories cling
and take you there
til you no longer care
you can let go now

it's not right for me
to cling to you
somehow I just needed time
for what was to be
it's not like me
to hold somebody down
but I was tossed high by love
almost never came down
only to land
where no love is found
and I'm no longer bound
I can let go now

--I Can Let Go Now
Allison Krause


Letting go is hard....but all of the phone numbers are erased, all of the photos,cards and messages have been deleted, the names have been taken off the list and off the address book......still hurts sometimes, maybe it always will...........but it's time to move on. Thank goodness there is always room in the heart for another special person. It looks like I am going to make a trip north and see what happens.

One Word

I got this in my email and thought it might be kinda fun so if you wanna...........use the email if you prefer lol



Subject: ONE WORD



Describe me in ONE WORD ... just one word! Send it to me only, then
send this message to your friends, and see how many strange things people
say about you! This could be fun! Just hit reply and send me my one
word back. Then forward to your friends (including me) and see what they
say about you!

GAME ON

7 songs

I'm running a little late but here is my list that Lori tagged me for...

7 songs I am into right now:

1) In My Secret Life-----Leonard Cohen

2) Hard Man to Love----Kevin Fowler

3) Breathe-----Melissa Ethridge

4) Tonight I Wanna Cry---Keith Urban

5) I Can't Unlove You-----Kenny Rogers

6) Hands----Jewel

7) You're Beautiful---James Blunt

Ok if you read this consider yourself tagged and have fun!

Words/Quality time/ Actions

WORDS -QUALITY TIME -ACTIONS.......................I have been thinking about this alot since reading another blog recently where the writer mentioned being a QUALITY TIME person and their spouse a WORD person. I guess it never really occured to me the differences. After a little brainwork what I came up with is this....a WORD person needs to hear praise and validation... a QUALITY TIME person needs one on one uninterrupted time....and an ACTIONS person needs to be shown that they are considered and valued.

A little self evaluation indicates that unfortunately I seem to be all 3. Not only do I need someone to spend time with me just talking, or taking a walk or any of the little things that people do together, I need to be shown that I am thought of. A message, a phone call, an email or a card, a touch, a hug or kiss, a look or just any little thing ( grand gestures aren't necessary) that takes a few seconds to let me know that I am considered and thought of. I also need verbilization. I need to hear 'I miss you' 'You look nice' 'I am glad I have you'...and more lol..this one kind of surprised me when I thought about it...because I have a difficult time opening up and telling people what I am thinking and feeling, the more intense the feelings the higher the diffuculty level. To throw more into the mix...I need someone to WANT to do all of the above, because they want to and not because it's what I want.

Tonight my feelings are hurt, but I didn't say anything. I usually don't. I will just go cry in the corner and wonder if the person who hurt me even cares. When I wake up in the morning I will pretend everything is fine, when what I really want is for that person to know me well enough to know that they hurt me and to care enough about me to not want me hurt. ok..now we can all gag...I'm a grown woman who has a mouth and knows how to use it right? So if this is what I want why not open that mouth and SAY SO? I wish I knew.

Friends without Faces

I found this on another blog and borrowed it:

We sit and we type, and we stare at our screens
We all have to wonder, what this possibly means.
With our mouse we roam, through the rooms in a maze
Looking for something or someone, as we sit in a daze.
We chat with each other, we type all our woes
Small groups we do form, and gang up on our foes.
We wait for somebody, to type out our name
We want recognition, but it is always the same.
We give kisses and hugs, and sometimes flirt
In IMs we chat deeply, and reveal why we hurt.
We do form friendships - but - why we don't know
But some of these friendships, will flourish and grow.
Why is it on screen, we can be so bold
Telling our secrets, that have never been told.
Why is it we share, the thoughts in our mind
With those we can't see, as though we were blind.
The answer is simple, it is as clear as a bell.
We all have our problems, and need someone to tell.
We can't tell real people, but tell someone we must
So we turn to the 'puter, and to those we can trust.
Even though it is crazy, the truth still remains
They are Friends Without Faces, and odd little names.

Wow..and I had no clue!

You Are a Sleek Black Bra!

Subtle, sophisticated, and classy.You're not the first woman a man notices in the room...But you're the one he remembers a week later.You need a guy who will make a lasting impression on you too!

http://ynr.blogthings.com/whatkindofbraareyouquiz/

tagged

Well, I have been tagged by my new blog buddy Tom... thanks Tom!!!

5 weird things about me:

1) I like ketchup on scrambled eggs occasionally

2) I love hardware/home improvement stores

3) I like to take a book and sit in the cemetary and read

4) I like to drive trucks

5) I only like to swim in pools, not rivers or lakes or tanks or creeks

Now I am tagging KJ, Shannon, Kimberly, Steven, Lacey...have fun!

you should 1. Thank your tagger
2. Post 2 weird things about yourself
3. Tag 5 people

this week

Well I have been shopping. My shopping is probably not like most women's shopping. Mine is usually groceries....and this week was a good week. I am what I laughingly refer to as 'thrifty'. This means that I am a bargain hunter....my kids tease me about it...but they don't mind raiding my cabinets if they should happen to need something! I was at Sam's Club the 0ther day...and they had a special on their lean ground beef...from $2.18 pd to $1.58 pd......now who doesnt need ground beef in the freezer? Of course I bought 4 large packages that are now seperated into smaller portions and frozen! I went on my regular weekly grocery trip and there was a store special....buy a roast, get a tub of margarine, a loaf of bread, a can of tomatoes, a can of beans, and a 2 liter of soda free...well those roasts were on sale too...so...for $17 I now have 2 large roasts which have been cut in half and frozen, 2 cans of beans, 2 cans of tomatoes, 2 loaves of bread, 2 2-liter sodas, and 2 tubs of margarine, a bag of fritos and a can of chili and one of jalapenos. ( and yes I also buy block cheese and grate it myself, and whole chickens and cut them up lol ) Not a bad week at all... but you can laugh too if you want, I don't mind.

On another note, an old friend of mine told me yesterday that her son, 29 years old with 2 kids and one on the way, has been diagnosed with cancer and given 6 months to live. My heart just breaks for her. I can't even imagine such horror..just the idea of that makes me want to run screaming and gather up my own son that age and hide him away. And this morning my youngest daughter, 27, says...'ok I think I am pregnant'. She and her hubby have been together for almost 6 years but married only last spring. The timing is actually pretty good for them, she can afford to stay home with the lil one and not lose her retirement. She is going to the Dr. this afternoon to confirm what the home test says. We take our blessings for granted sometimes.

The Lord giveth and the Lord taketh away.